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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;Ladybranch, post: 138340, member: 44&quot;]I&#039;m a transplanted Yankee living in the mid-south - specifically the Memphis, TN metropolitan area. I was born and raised in MA by parents whose ancestry traces back literally generations to colonial New England. I was raised to address my elders by Sir and Ma&#039;am as well as **anyone** who was helpful. It was considered **good manners.** They were words of respect to not only ones elders but also to any one who deserved respect like teachers, employers, ministers, parents, &quot;doctors, lawyers, Indian chiefs,&quot; etc.... It was not common to use those words of respectful up there, but many did and it was considered good manners.</p><p><br /></p><p>On relocating to the South some 50+ years ago, found these words of respect were commonly used. In fact it was and still is considered disrespectful not to use them. We don&#039;t use these words of respect with good friends, etc. One of our neighbors is about 10 to 15 years younger than us. He always addresses me as ma&#039;am. Several years ago I told him I wasn&#039;t his boss and not old enough to be his mother (or hoped I wasn&#039;t), so he need not address me as ma&#039;am. He replied with &quot;Yes, ma&#039;am&quot; and to this day he still addresses me as ma&#039;am!!</p><p><br /></p><p>Sooooo gatortail, you are certainly welcomed by me on this forum!!! Now with your use of &quot;gator,&quot; I suspect you are a Univ. of Florida fan. As a die hard Ole Miss fan, I&#039;ll still *speak* kindly of and to you, but bite my lip in doing so. All kidding aside, welcome to the forums!</p><p><br /></p><p>BTW, love your bed!</p><p><br /></p><p>--- Susan</p><p><br /></p><p>Edited: Black-eyed peas with ham hock, collard and cornbread. A grand southern New Year tradition that I have done a couple of times, but is time consuming on that busy day. I do always try to have &quot;Hoppin&#039; John&quot; on or around New Years - brings good luck for the new year!</p><p><a href="http://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1017090-black-eyed-peas-with-ham-hock-and-collards" target="_blank" class="externalLink ProxyLink" data-proxy-href="http://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1017090-black-eyed-peas-with-ham-hock-and-collards" rel="nofollow">http://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1017090-black-eyed-peas-with-ham-hock-and-collards</a>[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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