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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;bluumz, post: 4164714, member: 649&quot;]Ditto. <img src="styles/default/xenforo/smilies/frown.png" class="mceSmilie" alt=":(" unselectable="on" /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>My philosophy but, unfortunately, not my X&#039;s philosophy.</p><p>Whenever X and I had a heated disagreement, I was generally able to let go of the anger within a day. X, on the other hand, could/would hold on to anger and resentment <i>for years</i>. Oddly, my ability to &quot;move on&quot; actually angered him, too. He could never just &quot;agree to disagree&quot; about something.</p><p>But there were other significant and hurtful reasons for my decision to split up.</p><p>Re: talking/complaining to the kids: The best I could do pre/post-D was (and still is) what my mother taught me: &quot;If you can&#039;t say anything nice, then don&#039;t say anything at all.&quot; X, on the other hand, talked me down to the kids all the time... both pre-D and post-D. <img src="styles/default/xenforo/clear.png" class="mceSmilieSprite mceSmilie87" alt=":sour:" unselectable="on" unselectable="on" />[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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