Frustrations ...

Discussion in 'Antique Discussion' started by Golgatha, Jul 18, 2019.

  1. Golgatha

    Golgatha Member

    I've made a few postings, hoping that other members knew more about this and that, than I do. My conclusion: They don't. Instead they take other peoples postings as opportunities to empty buckets of their own frustrations on the heads of the posters. Is it the summerheat, lack of sex or what ? I don't know and frankly I don't care either. But sad it is.
     
  2. Any Jewelry

    Any Jewelry Well-Known Member

    A word of advice, take it or leave it: Good manners and appreciation of the help offered go a long way.
    Being arrogant and condescending don't.
     
  3. Golgatha

    Golgatha Member

    I rest my case ...
     
  4. daveydempsey

    daveydempsey Moderator Moderator

    Maybe this forum is not for you, perhaps its your attitude to others.

    You have already earned an infraction
    in your short membership for "Inappropriate Behavior"
     
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  5. say_it_slowly

    say_it_slowly The worst prison is a closed heart

    I'll give this a go.

    Golgatha, this site has some lovely and very knowledgeable folks from all over the world who are often willing to share and discuss what they know. In addition there are people who are eager to learn what others have to share so win win for everyone.

    People bringing an object here are usually asked for good photos from many angles including close-ups and material, any construction details or identifying marks. In addition people are often asked for dimensions and any history that is already known even as simple as the country it was discovered in.

    You know the saying about catching more flies with honey? Many folks are very busy and won't comment or contribute if they seem to be wandering into a hornet's nest of a discussion.

    So to that end lots of please and thank-you go a long way as it's terribly easy to misinterpret someone's intent from the written word. I usually re-write my postings before hitting the reply button because I tend to speak very abruptly and write that way as well which can seem snippy though not intended that way.

    Anyway hope you'll come to appreciate what this forum can offer and hope you'll find you can contribute.
     
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  6. Jivvy

    Jivvy the research is my favorite

    Puh-lease. You were hoping that people here would back up your pre-existing and sometimes grandiose notions about your items.

    And that's okay. That's why a lot of people come here.

    But when asked for details, better pictures, or how you reached your conclusions, you respond with, "that is irrelevant, ignore the man behind the curtain, agree with me!"

    That's not how it works. That's not how any of this works.
     
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  7. Golgatha

    Golgatha Member

    As you very well know, I've never said that. Fake news !
     
  8. BoudiccaJones

    BoudiccaJones Well-Known Member

    Everyone here has always,ALWAYS helped me when I have requested it. Quickly and politely. I have never been here and gone away sad or disappointed,or without help or pointers.

    They ( we!) really are a lovely bunch and you won't find a better one.
     
  9. Golgatha

    Golgatha Member

    I love you already !
     
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  10. BoudiccaJones

    BoudiccaJones Well-Known Member

    Lol well that de-escalated quickly...
     
  11. Jivvy

    Jivvy the research is my favorite

    Red herring!
     
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  12. Golgatha

    Golgatha Member

    Isn't that something you eat ?
     
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  13. say_it_slowly

    say_it_slowly The worst prison is a closed heart

  14. kyratango

    kyratango Bug jewellery addiction!

    All about your loveliness, Bou!;):kiss:
    And the fact you always showed consideration to our advices (or ravings!:hilarious:)
     
  15. Jivvy

    Jivvy the research is my favorite

    Ditto that!
     
  16. Any Jewelry

    Any Jewelry Well-Known Member

  17. i need help

    i need help Moderator Moderator

    Many new members have gotten off on the wrong foot on this Forum. If so many people are indicating you have a bad attitude, maybe time for some self reflection?
    If you feel you’ve acted acceptably, and continue with a bad attitude you won’t go very far here.
    If you want to be an active, helpful participant, friendliness goes a long way.
     
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  18. KikoBlueEyes

    KikoBlueEyes Well-Known Member

    Each forum has its own character. This is a sanctuary for people with a desire to share their knowledge in a positive, courteous, friendly, and respectful environment. What attracts me is the kindness and the willingness to help me even though I am just learning and make many mistakes. You might be more comfortable in a more combative, sarcastic and mean-spirited place. Under no circumstances will a direct attack on one of our most respected members, @Any Jewelry, go unremarked though. Go elsewhere if you want to continue that behavior.
     
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  19. charlie cheswick

    charlie cheswick Well-Known Member

    What did we expect from a guy, who clearly has no heart :)
     
  20. KikoBlueEyes

    KikoBlueEyes Well-Known Member

    :hilarious::hilarious::hilarious::hilarious::hilarious::hilarious::hilarious: Very good!
     
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